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Dear students,
Aalia’s family have asked us to share details of the Janazah Prayers and funeral taking place later this week and welcome anyone from the King’s community to attend, regardless of their faith.
This is expected to be tomorrow and Aalia’s family have shared details below, alongside information for anyone who hasn’t participated in a Muslim funeral before, so you know what is expected of you and what to expect.
Attending the Janazah
In accordance with Aalia and her family’s religious beliefs, her Islamic funeral, known as a Janazah, will be held at:
- Hounslow Jamia Masjid And Islamic Centre, 367 Wellington Road South Hounslow, TW4 5HU (Directions) on Friday 28 March 2025 after the daytime (Jumuah) prayer which commences at 12:15 (Please see Note below).
- Ladies will be gathering at the mosque to make prayers for Aalia from 12 noon.
- The burial will take place after the Janazah at 13:40 at Cherry Lane Cemetery, Shepiston Lane, Harrington, Hayes, UB3 1RN (Directions).
All are welcome, regardless of faith.
A Note on Islamic Funerals
In Islamic custom it is considered very important to the spiritual ease of the deceased for them to be buried as soon as possible after they pass away. We believe that this life is transitory and the next contains far greater blessings – and want to speed a virtuous person to their due reward.
As said above, Aalia’s family would like all who can to attend her Janazah, regardless of faith. However, please note that a Janazah is very different to a Western funeral. The Janazah consists of a short prayer in Arabic immediately after a regular daily prayer is held. It lasts no more than a few minutes and there are no speeches or music – and soon after people will set out to the cemetery for the burial.
While all are welcome to also attend the burial, others are welcome to remain at the mosque together to remember Aalia. It is customary to provide food for those who have travelled to a Janazah, and Aalia’s family will be giving out food parcels at the mosque instead of hot food because it is Ramadan and many attendees will be fasting. They can therefore take the food home, while others are welcome to eat immediately.
Because the mosque is a place of worship, the family respectfully ask that everyone wears modest clothing (no bare arms and legs and women please wear a headscarf if possible). There will be separate areas for men and women at the mosque, and at the cemetery men will stand close to the burial place, and women will be standing further back.
If anyone has any questions about etiquette, please see the Q&A below in the first instance or contact the Chaplaincy.
Best wishes,
Rev’d Dr Ellen Clark-King
Dean of King’s
Q&A Pre-Funeral
What should I wear?
Wear modest, respectful, covered clothing that covers your shoulders and knees. Avoid bright colours or flashy jewellery. For women, please wear a headscarf as a sign of respect and modesty. For men, please don’t wear shorts or vests - also modest clothing.
What are the basic Islamic customs and etiquette I should be aware of?
Remove your shoes before entering the prayer hall or mosque and use your right hand for shaking hands or giving/receiving items.
Are there any specific rules or customs for non-Muslims attending an Islamic funeral?
Non-Muslims are generally welcome to attend Islamic funerals, but it's best to follow the lead of Muslim attendees and avoid participating in religious rituals.
During the Funeral
What can I expect during the funeral prayer (Salah)?
The funeral prayer involves standing in rows, with men typically in front and women behind or in separate areas. Follow the lead of Muslim attendees, but you don't need to participate in the prayer. You’re welcome to sit at the back. Please avoid talking.
How should I behave during the funeral procession?
Walk quietly and respectfully behind the coffin, avoiding loud conversations or distractions. It is encouraged to compose your emotions in a dignified manner and avoid excessive wailing, loud crying or dramatic expressions of grief.
Can I offer condolences to the family?
Yes, offer condolences by saying something like "My condolences to you and your family" or "May God give you strength and patience during this difficult time."
Roles for Men and Women
Are there separate areas for men and women during the funeral?
Yes, in all Islamic funerals, men and women are separated.
Can women participate in the funeral prayer?
Yes, women can participate in the funeral prayer.
Can men and women mingle during the funeral?
Avoid mingling between men and women during the funeral, as this is a time for sombre reflection and respect.
What are the roles for men and women during the burial?
Men will typically follow the coffin and stand at the graveside. Women stand further back, away from the graveside, as a sign of respect and modesty.
Post-Funeral
What happens after the burial?
After the burial, food parcels will be distributed to attendees. As it is Ramadan, many attendees will be fasting and will take these parcels home to break their fast. However, those who are not fasting are welcome to eat together.
Can I bring flowers or other condolences gifts?
On gifts/flowers - in our beliefs, they will not benefit Aalia. We would rather ask that you do something good in Aalia’s name.
An act of kindness and/or a charitable donation in Aalia’s name that will continue to be of benefit over the years. A Just Giving page has been set up where all funds will be donated to charitable causes in Aalia’s name.
General
What if I don't understand some of the customs or rituals?
Don't worry! Just follow the lead of Muslim attendees and ask politely if you're unsure about something.
Will I get an opportunity to see Aalia?
There will not be an opportunity to view Aalia, she will be in a burial shroud, inside a simple coffin, which may also have a religious covering.
Can I take photos or videos during the funeral?
Out of respect, and to preserve a dignified atmosphere for all attending, photos and videos are prohibited.
How can I learn more about Islamic funeral customs and traditions?
Ask Muslim friends or colleagues or consult online resources and books about Islamic customs and traditions. You can also ask family members on the day who will be more than happy to give you more information.