How identity develops in childhood
From birth to around age five, children begin to develop an idea of who they are (their ‘sense of self’). In the first year of life, they start to distinguish between ‘I’ and ‘You’, realising that others are separate individuals. By around four years old, they understand that their thoughts are private and that they have their own personal “timeline” – a unique past, present and future. At age five, as they prepare for primary school, children start to see themselves in relation to the social world around them.
Thinking about identity
Encouraging children to think about their identity can be as simple as asking them to consider which of the below statements describe them:
- I like to be active (sports, PE)
- I like to read
- I enjoy spending time with other people
- I enjoy spending time on your own
- I like cats more than dogs
- I like dogs more than cats
- I have a favourite tv show
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- I have an older brother or sister
- I have a younger sister or brother
- I don’t have a brother or sister
- I live in London
- I was born in London
- I know other children in my class
- I am part of a sports team or after-school club
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The first column describes your ‘self-identity’ (how you see yourself), and the second describes your ‘social identity’ (who you are in relation to other people and groups). Both of these come together to make up our identity.
Identity is always changing
Like adults, children’s identities shift as they try new things, meet different people, and experience life changes, such as moving schools. We don’t always know our interests or how we relate to others until we explore!
My research focuses on how children use play, imagination and technology. Evidence suggests that whether they’re pretending to be superheroes or creating virtual worlds in video games, children’s play often mirrors aspects of their real-world identity.
Learning about identity through art
At the end of 2023, I visited Lyndhurst Primary School – our neighbours at the IoPPN – to talk to the children about ‘identity’. The visit, which was organised by my colleague Jackie Sansom, was coordinated with their Art Week, providing an opportunity to creatively explore the topic of identity, with the added bonus of decorating our Psychology research labs!
We held two assemblies, one for the younger students (ages five to seven) and one for the older students (ages seven to 11), where we explored ‘self-identity’ versus ‘social identity’ through interactive activities. The younger children were excited to share their preferences—dogs or cats? —while the older students reflected on how their identity might change as they transition to secondary school.
After the assemblies, the children submitted artwork on their own interpretation of the theme of ‘identity’. Their creations beautifully captured different perspectives—some focused on personal likes and dislikes, while others illustrated themselves in different roles and relationships.